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Learned the Answer Today to Something I’ve Been Wondering About . . .

Since shortly after I was diagnosed:

Do ADHD people have comprehensive and accurate memories of their childhood?

Some do, some only have “flashes” and some have eidetic memory (read High Definition motion-picture-quality recall).

I fall squarely in the “flashy” camp when it comes to memories of my childhood and early adulthood.

I only have flashes of most things and – with the exception of a few really strong memories of good things – my only “cinematic” memories are of traumatic events, or of things that I did/said that were particularly embarrassing to myself and those around me.

As far as I know, there hasn’t been any significant research on this facet of ADD/ADHD.  This was in an ADHD forum where a bunch of ADDers were comparing notes.  This particular forum appears to have gone dormant in 2012, so I will do some more searching and add notes at the end of this post when I find more information.

Some were worse off than me, only having a couple of flashes of any of their childhood, and one individual says he has vivid and cinematic memories clear back to six months of age.  May be.  Who am I to judge?

I know that I was fortunate to be born to good and loving parents with four older brothers who loved me like doting uncles, I grew up in a magical place among extended family, and that I had a pretty good childhood.  BUT,  I can barely remember any of it.   And, sometimes – when I can’t remember something that I really want to remember – my ADDled brain will make stuff up.  My brothers are always having to correct me on stuff that “I know  I know.”

There’s nothing like not being able to trust your own mind . . .

More on the ability to recall childhood memory at ADDForums.  This is the forum set that appears to have gone dormant.  I’ll continue to search.


“ADD is a FICTITIOUS Disease Said its Inventor Before His Death”

This one is P. A. I. N.

Has me on the hot seat again — four years after my diagnosis.

This has been blasted all over the Internet, and my work is back to treating me like ADD “really isn’t a thing.”

According to Snopes, this statement is only partially true and rests solely on a statement – taken out of context – translated from a German magazine article by digital translation software. (ADHD is a prime example of a fictitious disease.”)

Actually, what he was saying was that many of the children prescribed Ritalin and other stimulant-based ADD meds don’t, in fact, have abnormal dopamine metabolism — which makes those prescriptions inappropriate for them.


Just need to make it two more years . . .

WOW! Where Did Summer Go?

Wow! Here it is almost the end of August and I’ve yet to do a post this Summer.

Richard as Kilroy in The Cabin's Shower

This is what happens when you are married with a beautiful and talented photographer. You just have to develop a sense of humor and go with it . . .

Bear with me . . . There’s a lot of ground to try to cover.

One of the Bible studies I attended at a former church was about getting your life back so you could actually walk your Christian walk.  The leader’s motto was: “Satan wants you busy, busy, busy!  Because when you’re too busy to follow Jesus you’re much more open to Satan’s influences.”   He turned BUSY into an acronym that stood for “Burdened Under Satan’s Yoke.”  Well, it’s certainly been a busy Summer.  Too much to do, and too little time to do it.

One of the things that I absolutely HAD to do this Summer was to evaluate my supplement regimen and modify it as necessary.  I stopped taking Adderall because  – quite frankly – if you want to experience instant @hole, just take Richard and apply Adderall.   I wound up dropping St. John’s Wort as a daily supplement and will keep it in reserve for the times when depression rears its ugly head.  (Depression is a frequent co-morbidity for ADD — and why wouldn’t it be?  ADD is such a lovely condition to live with.)  I will continue with the other supplements I’ve been taking and have added several more.

The results have been positive, so far.  I’m feeling much more “normal.” I put normal in quotations because . . . I’m not sure I know what normal really is. The psychologist I saw for a brief time thought that I’ve probably been ADD all my life. From our discussions about my life, I would have to agree with her. So, what do I mean when I say I feel much more “normal?”  I have energy.  I can focus more.   I have a much more positive attitude.  I smile more.  I actually feel playful.   I’m interested in getting off my butt and actually doing something.  I really haven’t felt like this in years.  Probably at least seven or eight. All-in-all, I’m happier. I’m hoping that these positive outcomes continue.  I’ll keep you posted.

One of the other “must-dos” was to get a start on losing the 50 pounds that I put on after we quit smoking.  Sorry to report that I’m still pushing the wall on getting a start on that.   I’ve been walking more (With my knees, running is completely out-of-the-question.  At least, it is until I’ve lost the majority of this weight.), and watching what I eat — but, so far, not an ounce lost.  Previous experience (I lost over 90 pounds about 13 years ago.) tells me that it’s going to take sustaining and expanding my levels of exercise over an extended period to actually kick-start my metabolic rate.  Took almost 18 months last time – but then the 90+ came off in under a year.  I really don’t want to do the radical dieting and exercise I did last time, so I expect it will take longer this time — once the weight actually starts to come off.

I’ve always considered myself a woodworker, even though I’ve done precious little of it for the past 20 years.  Well, my beautiful bride has attacked our garage in order to make floor space available so I can actually do something out there.  First project is a couple useful sawhorses to be followed by a workbench.  Then, there are more projects than I can shake a stick at.

One of the must-dos before NEXT Summer is a couple of Puddle Duck Racers.  I was raised on the beach up on Lopez Island and had a boat from the time I was ten years old.  (Thanks to my Auntie Sis – she found a 4×8′ scow that was built out of 1/2″ plywood and 2″ dimensional lumber and gave it to me as my first boat.)  That boat was a boxy boat and was super stable.  It was a great platform for a kid to learn about boating on.  My brother Gene (6′ 4″ and about 180#) stood on the port stern quarter and bounced — she never shipped a drop of water.  That’s stability! Of course, a project like that just spawns other projects like a salmon spawns fingerlings.  I need to do a shaving horse so I can shape the masts, booms and oars.  I’m going to have to learn how to sew canvas to make the sails. There will be cleats to be made, boat hook handles, tillers, I’ll have to brush up on splicing rope . . . Wow! =:^)

Then, there’s my truck.   It’s become a piece of “driveway art” over the past four years or so — and not really a very attractive one.

I’ve decided it either goes — or it goes.

I bought it to be a vehicle to take my boys fishing, to haul stuff for projects, and to be a backup commuter.  Now, it needs to be got running again.  Then, there’s a new muffler, new tires, replace the non-functional bucket seats with a functional bench, get the seal on the rear window repaired/replaced and a catch plate glued to the slider portion so it can be secured, and did I mention paint?  It’s a host of projects all on it’s own.  To top it off, while it is a close fit, it’s not really what I want in a truck.  I like that it’s a straight six with a five-speed manual transmission, but, it has all the electronics and crud that a new truck has.   I want something simple that I can maintain.  Basically, I want this truck, but a 15-20 year older version of it with a carburetor, points & condenser, instead of electronic fuel injection and a half-dozen computers.  Simple.

At least the Honda is coming back into shape nicely.  Had some real issues with it, but they all boiled down to it’s a 23 year-old car that’s pushing 200,000 miles.  All just maintenance items that needed to be done.  Tune-up. Oxygen sensor.  Fuel filter. New muffler.  It’s back to running the way it did when we bought it from John & Lisa!  I like it! =:^)

Boys are growing like weeds.  Great kids.   All three of them.  Smart and they have good hearts.

We got to go up and spend a week at the cabin on the old family homestead.  Except, it’s not the old family homestead anymore.  It has passed out of our hands to another family.  Thankfully, he was raised on Orcas Island on a smallhold farm and gets it.   They were willing to allow us to have our family reunion there again.  And, after seeing that we don’t tear the place up and there was no wild partying, etc., they’re open to us doing it again next year.  Really great family.  If the land had to pass out of our family’s control, I can’t think of a nicer family for it to pass to.

Helped BL (my beautiful bride) shoot my nephew’s wedding last weekend.  Wow!  That was an education!  It was a love gift from us to them, but I have to say wedding photographers are not paid enough.  It is work to try to get all the photos the bride and groom want and then to try to back fill with good memories as you see them happening.  You just have to keep moving, observing and shooting the whole time. We each got about five minutes to eat (at separate tables) and thank God the boys were on their best behavior!  I wouldn’t trade the experience, but I’m not sure that I want to repeat it.  It is WORK!  Especially when you care about the couple involved and want to provide them with as many memories of their big day as possible.

Even though Summer is winding down, our schedule isn’t.  Got our youngest’s birthday this weekend.  Then, we want to go up and camp with family on the Skagit River and do some fishing.  BL’s birthday and our anniversary are in the offing, and time to start the boys back up in formal home schooling, and, and, and . . .

Going to post this and use it as a jumping off point to future posts and a possible spin-off blog.  Y’all take care of each other, and may The Good Lord bless and keep you and yours!




Good Book for ADD/ADHD Adults and The People Who Know Them

Good Book for ADD/ADHD Adults and The People Who Know Them

Stacey Turis wrote a book that anyone with ADD can totally relate to:  “Here’s to Not Catching Our Hair on Fire: An Absent-Minded Tale of Life with Giftedness and Attention Deficit – Oh Look! A Chicken!”  I’ll warn you: Stacey uses some pretty coarse language, but – having felt many of the feelings she is describing – I can TOTALLY relate to her hurt, anger & frustration.

This Stuff is Harder Than the Real Bloggers Make it Look

Blogging is harder than it looks . . . Keeping the juices flowing to have something interesting to say is not something that comes naturally for me. Maybe it’s part of the ADD thing — keeping the focus to stay on track with a structured activity like blogging is not easy.  If I can hyper-focus on writing something, I’m golden — but getting up the motivation to sit down and actually start writing is difficult.

This is HUGE for ADDers: How to Leave Work at Work (for Adults with ADHD)

‘Way back in my early adulthood, I had a start on a career as a police officer, but it didn’t pan out.  20/20 hindsight can see where ADD played a big role in that failure and/or my decision to seek a different path — however you want to look at it.

I did OK when I was single and free to live for ” THE JOB .”  Things started to unravel once I got married and I needed to split my attention between conflicting areas of responsibility.  You can’t be married only during the “off hours,” no matter *HOW* important your job is.  Worse yet, I had a hard time “taking off THE JOB” at the end of my shifts.   This caused me to be pretty rigid at home.   Not the best mental posture for a husband and father.  I finally left police work and pursued other work, but by then the damage was done and that marriage did not survive. Blog: How to Leave Work at Work (for Adults with ADHD).

Do You Ever Have Days Like Me?

The first theme I picked for this site – Suburbia – was a winner when it came to displaying full articles, but I’m obviously not well-versed enough to get it to look like their sample page.  All I got was the thumbnail columns which showed diddly/squat for content.  So, I switched to my current theme – Motion – and calmed the kinda busy background down a bit. Well, that’s great and all . . . Problem is I have zero idea how to get the RSS link working.  Went off looking for it, and got distracted by “How to Support WordPress” and the How-to guide, and, and, Squirrel! 

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